• Beauty is NOT Pain

    There’s this song that always makes me cry. It is by Alessia Cara, “Scars to your Beautiful.” If you’ve heard the song, you know what I’m talking about. And if case you haven’t, I’ve linked it down below. She is basically singing the inner monologue of just about every adolescent and teenage girl ever. But in the song, she speaks a quote that we are all very familiar with as women: “Beauty is pain.” And as I was driving yesterday, I just couldn’t help but stop and think, is this seriously the message we’ve been sending women and girls all these years? Who started this saying? And why did we…

  • A Letter to My Daughter on Her 6th Birthday…

    Marin Rose. You are my heart. I’ve often said you are my reward. After a life filled with struggle and strife, you are my reward at the end of the race. You are fun and funny. You are brilliant and kind. You are mindful and full of imagination. You have multiple personalities, (in a totally fun, kid way,) and we encourage you to be yourself and be silly. I was told many years ago when you were younger, and a terror, to be careful not to ruin you. You are strong-willed and determined. You are headstrong, and fierce. “Do not break that in her,” my friend Beth told me, and…

  • War on Women Part 2

    Last year I wanted leather leggings. I put it on my closet, with sticky notes of course, that this was something I wanted to add to my fall and winter wardrobe. I started doing this a couple years ago to be more intentional about my shopping. I saw it everyday until it was Spring. The seasons came and went and no leather leggings. I texted my little cousin and told her this was the year, for sure, that I would buy myself those leather leggings. I looked a little online and realized the ones I want are like $40…for leggings!! And then I had a revelation about myself: I treat…

  • I Believe in Balance

    I’m gonna say it. I may regret saying it, but I’m gonna say it anyway: We’ve hit a good stride. Let the pieces fall where they may now! This may sound superstitious, or this may be the result of a poverty mindset from childhood, but I’m a firm believer that once something is going really well, it is only a matter of time before it all falls apart again. Especially after you’ve said it out loud. But we’ve hit a stride and that is worth noting. It only took us over a year of homeschooling and I think we’ve finally found something that works. We’re busier than ever, the kids…

  • Meeting Jessica

    I got to meet Jessica Honegger last night. It was an amazing opportunity and I’ve followed her and admired her for almost a year now, anxiously awaiting her book release, and jumping on the book launch tribe just to get an early copy. And after following someone so intently and her having such an impact on my life and my faith and my journey in pursing my dreams, I had so much to say and a million questions to ask her, and you know what I did? I said nothing. Nada. Zilch. Well, I did answer the questions she asked me. I’m pretty sure I said ‘I love your podcast,’…

  • War on Women (Part One)

    There is a war going on, and you are a part of it whether you know it or not. “The war is not with flesh and blood, but with the unseen foreseen forces of good and evil, waging war in the heavenlies.” (Ephesians 6:12 paraphrased.) This war looks different to everyone. Most people go on about their day, not even noticing. Some people are aware it is going on but choose to ignore it. Maybe if we act like it isn’t there… It doesn’t effect everyone, but it is a driving force in changing our generations to come. That means your sons, your daughters, will be affected and see the…

  • Ten Things You Need to Know About Me and Fall

    So, if you’ve followed me here or on my podcast, or anywhere on social media, you will have inevitably already figured this out about me… I’m totally weird. There, I said it so you don’t have to. But there is one more important thing you should know, especially going into this time of year we are entering into. I flippin’ love FALL!!!!!! (All the capitals, all the emojis, all the hashtags Love love love love love!!) I’m a big fan of seasons, but my two favorite seasons are Spring and Fall, (but mostly Fall.) I love weather changes which mean costume and wardrobe changes. My fall closet you guys, super…

  • Not Giving Up…

    My biggest fear is missing the point. I’ve let go of a lot of my fears. In case you’ve just always assumed I’ve been fearless, just read this post entitled, Giving Up…Fear. I believe there are healthy fears and unhealthy fears. Unhealthy fears would be all those irrational thoughts that become fears when you drop off your kid for the first time at school, like aliens are going to attack and you will have been right about your awful feeling of going back to work and not staying home and shielding your children from those awful alien attacks. That is an unhealthy, and unrealistic fear driven by guilt. Your guilt…

  • Raising up Daughters

    What are we teaching our kids? What are we telling that next generation? How are we raising up our daughters? What are we telling them to believe about themselves? I have the privilege of raising a daughter. From the time I was little I wanted to be a mom and have a daughter of my own. I wanted her to have blonde hair, blue eyes, and be named Allison, because that was the coolest name that belonged to all the cool girls in the 80s and 90s. I did get blue eyes, and although her hair has ranged from dark brown at birth to blonde to somewhere in between now,…

  • Hell and a Hand Basket

    I threw a party the other day and no one came. No, seriously. Not a single soul. So, what do two friends who showed up to a party when no one else did do…? We threw our own party. And it was quite fun! Now I don’t say these things for you to be like ‘oh poor, Wendy, she has no friends.’ No. Not true. I have plenty of friends. I’m not lonely. I’m not gonna go start singing on a French dock of my struggles in hopes of being turned into an award-winning musical. (Is that how Les Misérables goes…I’ve never seen it). No. I’m a big girl, and…